In today’s world where online dating is the most common way of meeting people, it’s no wonder why more and more people are interested in dating Asian singles. Everywhere you look online, there are dating sites that focus on helping western singles meet attractive Asian singles. If you’re someone who is interested in dating an Asian but you aren’t having the kind of success that you thought you would, keep reading to find out how to change that.
- Don’t try to guess their ethnicity.
Look, contrary to what people think, all Asians do not look alike, so stop trying to guess where they are from. What you may not understand is that although you think your question is innocent enough, it also has an underlying reminder of a time when the world was xenophobic and had strong anti-Asian sentiment. Instead, just embrace them for who they are, not which Asian country they hail from.
- Don’t assume you know their language.
When you’re trying to flirt with an Asian, don’t throw out some Asian sounding words and assume they will understand. Also, don’t ask them to say anything in their language. Sure, they may be exotic to you, but that doesn’t mean they want to feel like a rare breed that is on display. If you’re on a site that mainly speaks English, then speak to them in English. If you’re on an Asian website, greet them in that language (if you know it. If not, what are you doing there??).
- Don’t mention your previous Asian exes.
Mentioning your ex is never a good idea when you’re trying to flirt with someone new, but it is especially rude if you talk about the other Asian singles that you’ve talked to or that you’ve dated. For one thing, they don’t care if you’ve never dated an Asian before or if you’ve dated thousands before them. Their only concern is that you are dating them because they are a person that you are interested in, and not just because they happen to be a particular ethnicity.
- Don’t link them to a particular food.
What we mean by this is that once you learn their ethnicity, don’t automatically say that you love sushi if they are Japanese. Don’t ask recommendations for authentic pho if you find out there are Vietnamese. You get the idea. Asia is much more than this food item or that food item. You don’t do that with Mexicans and say that you love tacos. You don’t go up to a German and tell them you love bratwurst, so don’t do that with Asians. It’s rude.
- Don’t feel like you have to prove you’re cultured.
There are many different ways that you can relate to someone and find out commonalities you may have with them. Simply because of your bond with someone over food, that doesn’t mean you have to quip that you know how to use chopsticks (they don’t care) or that you’ve visited Hong Kong for the summer one year. Yes, it’s nice that you’ve done these things, but unless you have a cool story that doesn’t come off patronizing, then don’t share it.
One thing that you should be aware of is that simply because you are interested in dating an Asian single, that doesn’t mean you become worldly and cultured. It’s great that you want to expose yourself to new people and experiences, just don’t do it so you can mark something off your “to-do” list.